by Lauren White
The word mindset is a very important term when it comes to mental health and well-being. We all have the capability to change our mindset at anytime but it’s all about having the awareness and the control to do that.
A lot of people find it really hard to control their mind because they are constantly “doing”. This means that we are going so fast, retaining information that is coming from other places and constantly trying to either be in the past or in the future. Thich Nhat hanh, a famous Buddhist monk , talks about slowing down and being in the present moment. When we can slow down we can really hear what’s going through our minds and how to react and deal with what’s going on for us. To take the next best course of action that is going to make us feel better about our mental state and ourselves.
We all have the capability to change our mindset at anytime but it’s all about having the awareness and the control to do that.
When we wake up in the morning we have a choice, a choice to get up and let things effect us or a choice to get up and do something that will make our mindset stay positive.
Within my own experience of this, I really struggled with mindset because I was always attaching external things to my thoughts and feelings such as “I didn't get that job, then I must not be good enough and ultimately I might as well spend my day being sad and depressed” this led me to turn to destructive behaviours such as drink, drugs, bulimia etc.
I had this mentality of “well if you had my problems you would do what I do”. I never really took a step back and said to myself that just because something bad happened doesn’t mean I have to make it a bad thing. I can change my mindset at anytime.
From the ages 11-18 everything that I could not control around me I had to control in me, meaning I could not live life on life’s terms. I had to turn to things to change the way I feel at that moment in time. Mine being drink, drugs and bulimia. To the point where I ended up in rehab at the age of 18 getting sober. The way I saw my life growing up was that I was an enemy and everyone else was to blame. It was a very self-sabotaging and self-pitying way to be. This was all apart of my mindset. When I entered rehab I came to learn that drink and drugs were the solution to my problem and the problem was I… I had a thinking problem.
The more you believe in yourself the more your self esteem grows and the more in control of your mind you will be.
Rehab gave me tools and showed me how to change my mindset and thinking. I use these tools on a daily basis today.
- We don’t have to like it to accept it but it is what it is.
- Everything happens for a reason
- Life is like a wave. There are good times and bad times but its how we cope and deal with the situation that matters
- Take everything in life as an experience and use that experience to grow
- To love you is to love yourself no matter what. The good, the bad and the ugly. This is what makes us human
Get up every morning and slow down. Ask yourself what you want out of the day and what will give you the chance to put your head on the pillow with a smile. The true struggle is believing in yourself and not letting anyone else’s opinions affect you. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do if you don’t want too. The more you believe in yourself the more you’re self esteem grows and the more in control of your mind you will be.